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Gettin' naked with someone newYesterday

Getting to know someone new usually involves stripping off some layers of defense and taking risks with one another's feelings. In BYB I decided to shed all of my layers so completely that I was entirely vulnerable. But it was somewhat contrived. It was a "safe" place to do so.

I am learning how to integrate this idea into my life in ways that I think fit better with the reality that some things aren't necessary to discuss in order to be free with thoughts and feelings with someone.

Specifically, I have a new slightly-unlabelable relationship (with Allison in Indy) in which we've done a good job of communicating. Specifically, our DTR-to-date ratio is 2:1.

There have been a couple of instances in which I've bitten my tongue and not really delved into recent past relationships or other details of my current social life here in DC. I think I've been pretty clear about my apprehension, and I appreciate that she doesn't prod me for more details even though she might want to.

If you know me well, you know that integrity is my most important value. I'm not anywhere close to perfect in maintaining it, but I try really hard to fix it when I screw up. Of course, it'd be easier to not screw up in the first place.

So it tugs at me a little that I haven't told Allison everything. She knows the bulk of my

What makes me happy?September 29

Here are some things that make me happy:

  • Snow skiing fast down the easy slopes
  • Kitty kisses
  • Picnics
  • Living in the city
  • Being stubborn (about silly things)
  • The first full-body stretch in the morning under a warm blanket in a cold room
  • Having the answer
  • Playing footsies
  • My happy place
  • When friends come to me with problems
  • Wandering
  • Justice
  • Pretending like I know where I'm going
  • Making a new friend
  • The two weeks before moving or changing jobs
  • Discovering music
  • "Me" time
  • Accomplishment
  • Burning things with others
  • Eating
  • Driving on the highway
  • Saying something witty
  • Sitting next to someone who makes my heart beat faster

This is a response to gRegor's blog post, Happiness.